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How to Manage High Chemistry in your Relationship

When you have high chemistry, you’ll likely have problems having conversations about what’s important to you, and you’ll likely begin to experience anxiety and frustration.

Manage Your High Chemistry Relationship

Why? Because the chemicals that create the chemistry have nothing to do with helping you have a great relationship. Remember, they are all about making great babies.

With high physical chemistry, it’s like you have blinders on that keep you from noticing the things that don’t fit into the requirements you have for a great relationship. It’s harder to express what you need to that person, because you adapt to fit their world-view instead of being true to yourself.

So, what can you do to manage an existing high chemistry relationship?

You MUST turn inward and explore what you require, need and want in order to be happy in the relationship. You MUST take the time to create a safe space between you to explore what you both need in order to be happy. You must clearly establish whether or not you are each willing and able to provide for one another’s relationship requirements. This can be a great time to work with a coach to help you make great deals that support the vision of your future together.

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Kimi Avary
Relationship Navigation Specialist

How to Overcome Waning Chemistry

Waning Chemistry happens when you start with a high chemistry and dive in without making deals about what is important to you.

How to Overcome Waning ChemistryOver time, each person gets hurt and these hurts build up. It causes us to withhold affection, sex and attention.

Withholding affection, sex and attention will be the DEATH of your relationship.

To overcome Waning Chemistry, you need to start by expressing your past hurts and allowing them to be healed. It’s not easy, and it takes a firm willingness to heal. Get the support of a coach who is able to hold a non-judgmental place for you both and guide you in the healing process.

When past hurts are healed, it will bring you up to the present moment. This will create an openness between you to explore each of your requirements, needs and wants together.

You’ll notice intimacy growing again, and with it, the space to appreciate what each of you bring to the relationship. This appreciation will help your relationship thrive and with that, you’ll feel happier, more resilient, and more satisfied.

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Kimi Avary
Relationship Navigation Specialist

Chemistry that WORKS

Have you ever been tortured by Chemical Attraction?

Shoot for Chemistry that works

Believe it or not, high chemistry isn’t all it’s cracked up to be when it comes to creating the authentic and loving relationship you want.

The scenario runs like this:

You’ve met “The One” and you can’t get enough.

You’re in LOVE! Tons of passion! You make love all the time.

You can feel your Lover walk into the room, and you’re blinded.

You can’t sleep. You think about your Lover constantly. You’re on a HIGH.

Everything’s going GREAT, despite fleeting glimpses that things could be off.

Like he loves to be at home and avoids social life, and you love to be out in the world with your friends.

Or she hates your dog, and you can’t imagine life without one.

You love to take care of yourself, and he’s a couch potato.

Or you can’t seem to get anything right with her and she’s angry all the time and you can’t figure out why.

The list could go on and on.

Little things start to add up, and then the misunderstandings come. You fight. The person you imagined at the start of the relationship has disappeared and you try desperately to get them back.

You try to fix them to be like the image you had, and things start crumbling around you.

You keep trying to work it out, but nothing’s working.

You break up. You’re devastated, and you can’t figure out what happened.

You give up for a while, and then start again with the next person hoping that this time things will be different.

Sound familiar? Even a little bit?

If you’ve ever been devastated by red hot chemistry gone bad, you know how heartbreaking and esteem crushing it can become. It makes no sense because nature didn’t make it to make sense.

Here’s the deal. Everything in our culture tells us that we should go for a chemistry of a 10, but the truth is that chemistry that hot will NEVER do anything good for you.

It’s chemically unsustainable and ends up in heartbreak every time because all of that passion overruns the time required to truly connect with your life partner in ways that work – emotionally, spiritually, foundationally.

High chemistry is about making great babies, not creating great relationships, because nature doesn’t care if you have a great relationship.

If you want to have a relationship that works long-term, do yourself a favor and get clarity about what you want, and look for someone who is a between 5-7 on the chemistry scale.

Between a 5-7, you won’t compromise the things that are important to you. You’ll be able to see clearly whether or not this person is a match for you. You’ll show up as your best self. You’ll grow in love.

If the chemistry is higher, RUN!

Kimi Avary
Relationship Navigation Specialist

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