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Moving from Stuck in Emotional Pain to Healing Your Heart Once and For All

Pain in our bodies is usually there to tell us something. It’s a messenger.

If your ankle hurts after a fall, you’ve likely sprained it. Chronic heartburn could be an indication of a hernia. A migraine after a long day might be the result of tension.

You could pop an Advil for the ankle or the headache, and take some Mylanta for the sour stomach.

And you’d probably get some immediate relief.

But you’d only be addressing the symptoms. Unless you treat the root cause (get off the ankle, fix the hernia, or lower your stress levels), you’ll keep experiencing the same pain.

Not only that, but the pain can escalate in intensity.

Emotional pain in our hearts – and the way we often respond to it – works the same way.

How We Stay Stuck In Emotional Pain

When you feel under-appreciated, dissatisfied, frustrated, abandoned, or criticized in your relationship, you want to make the emotional pain go away.

And if you’re like the many men and women I have worked with, here’s what you’re most likely to do:

Unhappy couple

  • Fight with your partner
  • Withdraw from your partner
  • Leave your partner altogether

Yet, in each of these scenarios, you’ve only treated the “symptoms.”

Unless you uncover and dissolve the underlying cause of your pain, you will continue to hurt in love.

Pain in our hearts – the natural grief and other emotions that all humans feel – is a messenger too!

When you feel emotional pain in response to what your date or partner did – or didn’t do – that’s your inner compass telling you that there’s something that needs to be healed on the inside.

  • If you keep experiencing the pain of people leaving you, there is an underlying cause.
  • If you always feel like you’re the one giving in your relationship, there is an underlying cause.
  • If you feel like your partner isn’t sufficiently attracted to you, there is an underlying cause.

And you will keep attracting people and situations that trigger your emotional pain – whatever it is.

Heal Your Heart Once And For All

Just as physical pain resolves once you treat the underlying condition, your emotional pain will also stop once you treat the root causes…

  • That fight you keep having over and over with your partner will stop.
  • Those players you keep attracting will leave you alone.
  • That ache of dissatisfaction you feel in a relationship will vanish.

But recognizing where the challenges stem from can be tricky. After all, they’ve been with you for most of your life.

I’m a specialist in helping people tap into the root causes of their relationship pain.

If you want immediate help so you can zero in on exactly what’s causing the problems between you and your partner,

Please consider joining my 3-Month Relationship Navigation Intensive Program.

And if you think you ALREADY know the underlying reasons why you and your partner fight, you especially need this program.

I’ve found that most couples are completely wrong in their analysis of their own relationships, and their “diagnosis” is usually way off.

That’s precisely why they keep running into the same problems and experiencing the same emotional pain!

When you participate in The Relationship Navigation Intensive,

You’ll know how to truly heal your emotional pain and your relationship – and finally know what it’s like to experience healthy, lasting, and blissful love.

Click here to learn more.

If you are struggling in your relationship, or struggling to find your life partner,

I would be happy to discuss your situation and how the Relationship Navigation Intensive can help.

Schedule a 30-minute consultation on my calendar.

In the meantime, May Your Heart Feel Peace in Your Daily Relating…

I’m here for you. I’m on your side. 🙂

To Love!

Schedule 30 Minutes Now

Kimi Avary
Relationship Navigation Specialist

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Tips for Creating the Love You Desire

Did you know that you are an Amazing Human Being?!?!?!

Do you know how powerful you are?

You have the power to create love in your life – or not – and that is extraordinary.

This applies to you regardless of your relationship status.

Here’s the truth, LOVE IS THE MOST POWERFUL FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE.

Love is a state of being. It’s an experience.

Love flows endlessly. Always. And in All Ways!

Love has an electromagnetic frequency that flows from your heart and touches the people around you, if you let it.

You can feel the difference when your heart is open and love is flowing, and when it’s not. Can’t you?

What if I told you that you can CHOOSE to allow love to pour out from your heart?

That’s right. You can.

And the beauty of choosing to let love pour out of your heart is that when you activate love in your body, it’s actually good for you.

Activating love in your body puts your body into health and wellness mode. 🙂

If experiencing love is easy for you, fantastic. If it’s not, then read on.

Tips for Creating the Love You Desire

You may be wondering, “If I create love in my life, and I’m not getting the love I want… then what am I supposed to do?”

There are two reasons you may not be experiencing the love you desire.

The first is that you may not have known that it’s up to you to choose the kind of experience you want to have.

If you want love, then choose love by looking for experiences of love. Start by looking where it’s most easily found.

Me and my chihuahua Mouse 🙂

I find it most easily with my chihuahua, Mouse, or being in nature. I can feel the interconnectedness of all there is when I’m holding Mouse or I’m outside.

In my heart the experience of interconnectedness feels like love.

TRY THIS: Think of where you can go to feel connected. Either physically go there, or imagine being there. Breathe in the beauty, abundance, and connection. Feel it fill your heart. Exhale. Imagine love flowing out from your heart. You may notice that with each breath the feeling of love gets stronger and more robust. Let it grow.

Isn’t it amazing how when you choose to experience love, you can?

The second reason you may not be experiencing the love you desire is that how you perceive what you see outside of you stops you from experiencing love.

Here are a few examples:

  • Your partner isn’t giving you the love you want, and you feel hurt, frustrated and alone.
  • You’re single, and you see people in relationships all around you, and you have a hard time accessing the feeling of love. Instead you’re feeling lonely, envious, angry or bitter.
  • You and your partner fight about all kinds of things from who takes care of the cooking, to parenting styles, to where to go on vacation.
  • You feel like your partner never takes what is important to you into account and the resentment seems so thick, you can’t imagine how to get out of it.

Just say NO to the Downward Spiral

So much of our relationship upsets stem from assumptions and misunderstandings about our partner.

From these, we make judgments about the intention behind why our partner did or didn’t do something. And quite often these judgments are less than kind.

Here’s an assumption that has led me to curiosity rather than frustration.

“Men and women are so different we’d be better off if we actually spoke different languages, because then, we wouldn’t think we were communicating.”

It freed me up to create more love in my life regardless of what my partner is or isn’t doing, and what’s happening around me. Which helps me return to the loving experience I desire when I’ve been having challenges in my relationship.

Wouldn’t you like more of that?

I address these challenges and more in my new 3-Month Relationship Navigation Intensive Program.

Click here to learn more.

People have paid $2000 for this program, but I’m offering it at the super special price of $297 because I want to provide you with the tools to create a lifetime of love.

If you are struggling in your relationship, or struggling to find your life partner, I would be happy to discuss how the Relationship Navigation Intensive can help.

Schedule a 30-minute consultation on my calendar.

In the meantime, may you create and ENJOY the love in your life always!

I’m here for you. I’m on your side. 🙂

To Love!

Schedule 30 Minutes Now

Kimi Avary
Relationship Navigation Specialist

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Setting Your Intention for 2019 and Beyond

Recently I shared a story about how I avoided a heartbreaking family gathering by rallying my creative powers and setting my intention to have the experience I wanted.

(You can read the full account here in case you missed it.)

Now that holiday bustle has passed, and we’re delving into 2019 in earnest, I thought a re-share of my tips for creating the experiences you want in love and life might be in order…

SETTING YOUR INTENTION

Know that you have a choice about every experience that comes your way.

Creating Meaningful ConnectionsIt may take a few minutes to orient yourself so you can make the best of challenging situations as they come up, but you can do it.

You always have choice.

I invite you to take some quiet time and set your intention on what you want to experience instead of what you don’t want (for the day, the week, the month, or all of 2019!:)

Even if things have been a bit rocky, you can give yourself a time out, breathe and focus on what you want to experience instead.

When you get the image, imagine being inside of that desired image – imagine feeling, seeing, and hearing what it’s like to be fully experiencing it the way you want it to be.

Things will start to turn around and move in the direction of what you desire. Especially when you’re FEELING THE GOOD FEELINGS that you desire. They become like a magnet drawing the experience you want into your life.

You are a powerful creator.

Remember to love the ones you’re with… even if it’s just yourself.

And that in every moment you can set a new intention and make the best of whatever is coming your way…

Lovingly,

Kimi

PS. If you are someone you know has been struggling with relationship disappointments or conflict, the NEW 3-Month Relationship Navigation Intensive Program will give you what you need to turn things around and create the relationship you truly desire… CLICK THE IMAGE BELOW TO LEARN MORE.

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Wondering if it’s right for you?

Schedule a 30-minute appointment with me to discuss your unique situation and goals and what you can start doing right away to achieve them.

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I’m here for you. I’m on your side. 🙂

To Love!

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Creating Meaningful Connections

When I think of Winter Solstice, Hanukkah, Christmas, and Kawnzza, I think of connection.

Creating ConnectionsConnection to family and friends near and far.

Connection to ourselves and our inner wisdom.

Connection to our country and our world, to something greater than ourselves, the Universe, God, Goddess, The Thing Itself…

Unfortunately, we can’t get to connection if we don’t set our intention to go there.

Over the years, the holidays have been both beautiful and difficult at varying times for me…

I remember the year after my mother passed away we were having Christmas as a family. My brother Arthur and I had arranged create the Christmas meal for the family.

Since I live quite a drive away from my father’s house, I was staying overnight. In the morning, I was in the kitchen preparing a fabulous cranberry/tangerine sauce. My father walked in and said, “You’d better finish up so that Arthur get in here to fix dinner.”

This might not have been a huge deal except that my father and I have had a rocky relationship for many years.

His simple words made me immediately feel like bursting into tears, and that I shouldn’t have even come. I turned the burner down and left the room.

Heartbroken WomanThe only thing I could think to do was to lock myself in the bathroom. I doubt anybody even noticed, but I knew I had to get out of the room or we would go down the path of anger and hurt feelings that we’ve gone down over and over again.

I sat there in the bathroom and knew I was at a fork in the road. I knew I didn’t want another horrific fight with my dad. Christmas was hard enough without my mother, and I just couldn’t stand the idea of fighting with my father again.

So there in the bathroom I paused. I took some deep breaths. And then I thought about the kind of experience that I wanted to have.

What I truly wanted was a Christmas with my family that was filled with love and connection. I wanted to fill the hole that the loss of my mother had left on all of us. I wanted a balm on my broken heart.

I decided that I needed to, and that I could, let go of what my father had said.

That I could reinterpret his words differently than I’d ever done.

I could think that my father’s words were not aimed at me or meant as a barb. They were just words said with enthusiasm about the coming dinner. This was just as true as thinking he didn’t love me. I knew I had a choice. I also knew that I had to make a better choice than I’d made before.

I sat there in the bathroom and intentionally thought about love. And the more I thought about love, the more I began to feel it. The more I felt love, the easier it was to begin to imagine this Christmas being different.

I set my intention to focus on love with my husband, brothers, sister-in-law, nephew, and father.

I spent about 10 minutes envisioning the experience I wanted with my family and most especially my father. Breathing and connecting myself to the love that I wanted to be experiencing.

Breathing and feeling love in every cell of my body. Breathing and sending love to my family. Breathing and sending love to my father.

And then I went to the kitchen and finished making my delicious cranberry/tangerine sauce. Arthur and I cooked together. We had a sweet gathering.

That night when I laid my head on the pillow, smiling as I drifted off to sleep, I thought, “That was exactly the experience I wanted.”

WHAT YOU CAN DO TO CREATE THE EXPERIENCES YOU WANT…

Creating Meaningful ConnectionsKnow that you have a choice about every experience that comes your way.

It may take a few minutes to orient yourself so you can make the best of the situation, and you can do it. You do have a choice.

However you’ve been spending the holidays, I invite you to set your intention on what you want to experience instead of what you don’t want.

Even if it’s been a bit rocky, you can give yourself a time out, breathe and focus on what you want to experience instead.

When you get the image, imagine being inside of that desired image feeling, seeing, and hearing what it’s like to be fully experiencing it the way you want it to be.

Things will start to turn around and move in the direction of what you desire. Especially when you’re feeling the good feelings that you desire. They become like a magnet drawing the experience you want into your life. You are a powerful creator.

And love the ones you’re with… even if it’s just yourself. In every moment you can set a new intention and make the best of whatever is coming your way.

Try this, and you just might find that it feels good, and that it’s nice to know you have a choice. It will also help you to know that you can create more of what you truly desire in your life.

May your holiday season be filled with sweet connections, much love, and delicious laughter!

Lovingly,

Kimi

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