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Healing Little Hurts So Love Can Thrive

I wanted to take a minute to talk about the little hurts in your relationship today because little hurts building up over time can destroy your most vital and loving intentions.

For example:

  • Maybe your partner says something that hurts your feelings and you shrug it off and “let it go” for the sake of diplomacy. You don’t want a confrontation, so you bury this little hurt today.
  • Maybe you go along with something that makes you feel uncomfortable for the sake of making your partner happy, but your contribution seems to be taken for granted – goes unappreciated – but you bury this little hurt today.
  • Maybe you’re tired of being nagged about something that’s not a priority right now and wonder what’s the point of even trying, but you bury this little hurt today.
  • Maybe you have mustered up the courage to tell your partner how you really feel about something that’s important to you, only to have it shot down, criticized, or ignored, but you bury this little hurt today.

Every single day, men and women choose to bury some little hurt because they love their partners and want to make their relationship work…

For the kids.

For security.

Because they cannot bear the thought of breakup.

Meanwhile, these little hurts are feeding self-preservational instincts below the surface, and building up to a downward spiral that can to destroy the love you have…

Just say NO to the Downward Spiral
Couple spiraling into preventable conflict

 

It does NOT have to be this way!

I have always said that you can be the most loving, compassionate, and spiritual person in the world and still get tripped up in your relationship because our instinctual nature, hidden in the unconscious mind, gets in the way of our conscious intentions whether we are aware of them or not.

When we know how instinct works, we can navigate it: we can trip, stumble a little, and recover quickly. But when instinct operates under the radar, the results can be emotionally catastrophic and lead to misery, distrust, betrayal, divorce…

The whole point of my coaching practice – and everything I do – is to provide you with reliable tools to recover quickly from little hurts, and create the relationship you truly desire – a conscious relationship that FEEDS YOUR LOVE instead of one that unconsciously challenges it at every turn.

Learn how to co-create a GREAT Relationship
Couple spending more time loving (due to less time recovering from little hurts!).

The bottom line is that LITTLE hurts happen when we don’t know where our partner is coming from – when we subconsciously expect our partners to think, feel and behave like we would, but in practice, men and women are different.

Men and women speak differently, listen differently, and have vastly different needs and expectations relating to commitment, safety, sex – you name it – and nd until we become CURIOUS about why our partner did or said something THAT WAY instead of the way we expected, we’re going to get it wrong.

If you don’t want to get it wrong,

If you want to:

  • immunize your current relationship against the erosion of little hurts…
  • or find your life partner with the benefit of foresight…
  • or even SAVE THE ROCKY BOAT YOU’RE ON…

I would love to see you in person August 11-12th, 2018  in Berkeley.

Workshop DetailsDuring my 2-Day Voraciously Curious for Couples and Singles Workshop, I laser focus on some of our differences so that men and women can heal past hurts and begin co-creating GREAT RELATIONSHIPS together.

http://voraciouslycurious.com

It’s going to be a great weekend filled with insights you won’t want to miss!

So click here to learn more and enroll before space runs out.

I hope to see you soon.

Lovingly,

Kimi

PS.  SPECIAL NOTE: VORACIOUSLY CURIOUS HAPPENS REGULARLY SO CLICK THE IMAGE BELOW TO CHECK FOR THE LATEST DATES IN CASE WE FORGOT TO UPDATE THIS POST!

Voraciously Curious Workshop Homepage

Kimi interviews Mary Goyer, M.S. Holistic fertility, pregnancy, and reproductive health specialist

During my video interview with Mary Goyer, she emphasizes that if you only focus on what’s going on physically with infertility, you’re missing 45-50% of what’s going on to inform those symptoms.

Do not underestimate the emotional work!

You cannot simply apply the mind over matter approach because that usually just adds to the energy that’s causing the problems in the first place.

For example, stress is a powerful factor because the body registers reproduction as unimportant when the Fight or Flight system is turned on, and resources will be focused elsewhere.

When the Fight or Flight system is turned on continuously, under conditions of chronic stress, ALL of your body systems get thrown out of balance and symptoms will start coming up.

People know it’s going on, but they don’t know what to do about it.

That’s where Mary’s work really comes in. There are a number of things you can to do release those subtle sources of stress from your body.

It’s never too late to re-balance your body and clear up the emotional energy that is causing the body’s imbalance.

To learn more about what’s going on with stress and infertility and what you can do about it (without quitting your job!), you can download her article “The Truth About “Infertility – Mindset Matters” here:

MaryGoyer-MindsetMatters

Learn more about Mary and the incredible work she does, visit aufertility.com and auparent.com.

Kimi introduces Special Guest Mary Goyer and “The Truth About “Infertility” – Mindset Matters”

I’m posting today to share a very important resource with you or someone you love (Mary’s article linked below).

Mary Goyer M.S.
Mary Goyer, M.S., holistic fertility, pregnancy, and reproductive health specialist

I met Mary Goyer, M.S. holistic fertility, pregnancy, and reproductive health specialist when she was speaking a few weeks ago. We immediately connected because our work overlaps.

Couples often wait until things have gotten really bad and tried everything that they can think of to save their relationship before reaching out for help. The same holds true for couples experiencing infertility.

The experience of wanting a child and not being able to get pregnant is incredibly hard on any couple, and when they don’t get the help they need to deal with their emotions along the way, they risk losing their relationship too.

Mary offers safe, natural integrative techniques for women wanting to be mothers. She draws upon her traditional training in marriage & family therapy and her specialty in holistic, mind-body techniques to offer a new way of approaching fertility, birth & wellness for women.

Mary supports women/couples who are dealing with a range of challenges: hormonal imbalances, “infertility”, pregnancy loss, relational difficulties, sexual trauma, birth trauma, postpartum depression, anxiety & stress, etc.

She works with couples to clear reproductive imbalances, increase fertility, and step into parenthood from a place of connection, confidence, & peace. Her approach, first used to heal herself of cervical cancer, is now offered locally and internationally.

Watch my Interview with Mary here:

http://consciouscouplesnetwork.com/kimi-interviews-mary-goyer/

Download her article “The Truth About “Infertility” – Mindset Matters” here:

MaryGoyer-MindsetMatters

Learn more at aufertility.com and auparent.com.