The other day, I was doing a Relationship Breakthrough Session with a couple who is struggling in their relationship. They’re what I call a conscious precommitted couple; they were at an impasse because they weren’t sure they were on the same page about their future.
They aren’t married. Mary wants to get married. She’s 51 years old and has always wanted to get married.
Dave is 54 years old, and is uncertain about getting married again, because he’s been married before.
Like most Conscious Couples, they’ve made some great choices in their relationship, but what they haven’t done is make a plan for how they want their life to be.
They have been winging it up until they hit a major roadblock.
She’d brought up the idea of marriage early on, but because they’d been having a great time together, it has sat on the back burner for the last year and a half.
Then one night at dinner, she brought it up. She thought the conversation had gone well, but it turned out that he felt broadsided.
She was surprised because she thought they were on the same page. And it’s not that they aren’t, it’s just something they haven’t talked about for most of their relationship.
There seems to be a fear about talking about the future of your relationship because maybe you’ll jinx it. The unfortunate thing is that when you don’t talk about it and create a plan for how you want to be together and what you want to do, you end up winging it, and when you wing it, you get “wing it” results.
The universe can’t provide what you want if you’re not clear. And you can’t plan your life together unless you take the time to plan your life together!
That’s why I recommend creating a Relationship Plan (in writing!) every year. Taking the time to think about and discuss what you want your life together to look like now – for the next 12 months – will keep you on the same page as a couple, and help the universe kick in its part to ensure you get great results.